On June 25, I told you I was going to New York to celebrate Pride with friends. Little did I know that the Supreme Court ruling overturning Roe v. Wade would happen while I was there, forcing me to put on my figurative reporter hat and talk to people. Had to take to the streets to ask how they were feeling.
Short answer? Not good.
I spoke to several people — of varying ages, races and genders — who attended a rally in Manhattan’s Washington Square Park on Friday evening. Here’s what he said about the impact of the news on his mental health:
“I had a really hard time at work today,” said Joe McElroy, 31. “Everyone there was really anxious and depressed and had trouble concentrating.”
Selu Sky Lark, 26, called the court’s decision an “attack” that could suddenly call into question her own quest for gender-affirming surgery.
“It’s definitely stressing me out,” he said. “It’s going to be a really tough two years. It’s going to be a fight every day.”
Channa Siegel, 39, confessed to throwing up earlier in the day, so was the news of the troubling court decision. Siegel, whose She has four daughters, said she had an abortion once to save her life.
“Now there are states that will let me die,” she says. Siegel’s feelings have overwhelmed her lately, which makes her his own. Concerns for the state of mind of young daughters. Her own feelings range from “upset” to “fearful” to “crazy.”
These quotes and more, including expert analysis, from my colleagues Naledi Ushe, Marco della Cava and I of the SCOTUS decisionof The Mental Health Effect.
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Are You Too Cool? Here’s When It’s a Problem
You know what fight or flight is, but what about phoning?Jenna Ryu colleagueabout this lesser-known reaction and what it means.
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People cope and survive traumatic childhood experiences in different ways. Most people are familiar with fight, flight, and freeze in order to gain protection and escape a negative situation. But some, like Mika Jones, try to appease danger in what trauma experts call “phoning,” or avoid conflict.
“Founders or people-pleasers will be deeply attached to the idea of being excessively good because it is often believed that being nice can save me from unpleasant situations with friends or family,” says psychotherapist and co-author Katie McKenna. could.” Host of the “In Sight” podcast.
While this lesser-known trauma response seems harmless, experts warn that “being too nice” is actually a maladaptive coping mechanism with dire consequences.
“Fonning involves a need to continually give up on one’s own desires and serve others to avoid conflict, criticism, or rejection,” says McKenna. This is also known as people-pleasing or co-dependence and includes over-apologies, being over-conscious of what others think, and an inability to set boundaries.
Trauma experts say that fomenting is most common among victims of relational abuse, referring to environments where a parent, sibling or loved one is emotionally controlling, abusive or neglectful.
“When people think of trauma, they usually think of abuse — either physical abuse or sexual abuse. But there is another type of abuse,” McKenna says. “If you were raised by non-nurturing or abusive parents, you still need to build that attachment to feel secure. But in order to do that, you need to be in sync with your parents. “
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I am gay, but my mother wants me to marry a man. what can i do?
In this week’s advice column, a reader wrote: “I’m a 23-year-old woman who came out as a lesbian a year ago, and my mom keeps making abusive comments about my sexuality that bother me. She says she’s supportive and that she’s not afraid of homosexuality, but then she keeps asking me to marry a man so I can have kids, then I’ll be gay. She’s said it several times, and also told me last week that a family friend of ours agrees. She made other comments, saying she hates the word ‘lesbian’ and that I shouldn’t ‘put myself in a box’ .’
You could say I’m a little disappointed. My dad didn’t know he made these comments, but we agreed that I couldn’t face him because his mental health was deteriorating since my grandmother entered hospice Whenever she gets really defensive she has a confrontation.
So I guess I don’t know how to deal with these feelings. I can’t face her, and I feel like I can’t ignore it It’s all too bad timing as I’m supposed to go to his house this July, so distance isn’t an option either. Any advice is appreciated.”
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